I Dream of Jeannie
All of the Incredibles
and my favorite, Bewitched!
Who would not want to twitch their nose and be in Hawaii, turn their cat into a pony or create a brand new kitchen?
I have always been a fan of stories about people with super powers. I wanted a super power. I remember, after an old-school binge of reading Nancy Drew books, I went around my house tapping on walls and twisting knobs to try to find a secret room. I knew I could not cross my arms and blink a new wardrobe but I thought I could at least discover something that no one else knew was there. And I did! I found an old, empty (no gold treasures there) milk box where milk used to get dropped off back in the day of milk delivery that had been sealed over. I thought that was pretty cool but not really Super Power worthy.
Fast forward to 2015. I am lying in bed in the early morning thinking about whether I would go excercise. That is when it hit me.
I DO have a super power.
I am SUPER-RATIONALIZER!
I can rationalize any decision that I want to make even when I know it is not the best choice for me.
Case in point: I had been getting up early and working ten hour days for a part-time contract recruiting project. I rationalized, on my days off, I really needed to rest so I would not get sick. I did not feel sick. I had been sleeping for 7 hours a night. I was rested. But, I did not feel like exercising so I rationalized that I was taking care of myself by "resting" in bed.
Super-Rationalizer on the Scene!
Another example you may have seen was in a post I had on Facebook recently. My mentor coach Susan Hyatt was promoting a new weight loss program. I considered it but rationalized that I "shouldn't" sign up because of the money it would cost. (HINT:when you find yourself using words like should, shouldn't or can't you may be putting on your very own SUPER RATIONALIZER cape.)
Then Susan has the nerve to offer a FREE program to one lucky winner. That is when I realized that SUPER RATIONALIZER had struck again.
The real reason I did not want to sign up for the program had less to do with the money and more to do with the fact that I did not want to sign up for another weight loss program that I was afraid I would fail at again. Saying that I did not want to spend the money sounded legit. I did not have to admit my fears, afraid to be vulnerable, afraid to tell my real truth. Which means I would never change. I had to change my Super Power in order to change myself.
Do you have a Not-So-Super Power? Post it on Facebook and tell the world!
And if you want a new Super Power try this:
- Acknowledge your Not-So-Super Power. Name it and claim it so there is no shame in it. It is just a thing. I rationalize. Maybe you are Super Procrastinator, Super Intellectualizer, Super Martyr, Super Victim, Super Lone Wolf. Super TV Watcher. Post it up on Facebook.
- Track when you are using it. Shine a light on it. Is it mainly around food, money, time? Is it with your mom, kids or spouse? When does your Not-So-Super Power like to flex its muscles?
- Have Compassion for your not-so-super power. Thank it and then let it know that it is time to take off its cape and take a long needed rest. That is where my real SUPER POWER lies.
- Change it. Come up with another Super Power that is more in line with who you really want to be. In my case, I want to be SUPER TRUTH TELLER. I want to say what is really going on for me in the moment and not hide behind excuses, half-truths or outright lies.
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